Self-realisation

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The ultimate goal is not financial or material success, never was and never will. How much of that can we use once we are dead?
No the ultimate and only aim is self-realisation.

How much we have learned, how we have grown, how we have changed.

It is not what we create outside of us that matters, but what we do with ourselves.
We are our biggest creation.

K.Wilson

Mindfulness and a cup of coffee

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Mindfulness and a cup of coffee.

What is mindfulness really?

It is very common nowadays to use the term mindfulness in all sorts of circumstances. Yet are we really mindful and using it rightly?

Being mindful is actually being mindless. We can`t be mindful if we are caught in our thinking. Our thinking is always linked towards the past or towards the future. Mindfulness on the contrary is only in the present. One cannot be mindful if he`s thinking of something which isn`t there. So mindfulness is being completely present with what is happening right now. It is being right here, right now with whatever is happening, with whatever we are doing in this very moment.

If I`m drinking a cup of coffee, I am only drinking this coffee. I am aware of its smell, its colour, it`s taste. I don`t drink it while thinking of the day I have ahead of me, the job I need to go to, the problems I need to deal with, the people I will meet.

I just drink the coffee.

While I drink it, I don`t think of the argument I had with my wife over breakfast, or the bills I should have paid yesterday or the fun I had with my kids last night.

I just drink the coffee.

While I drink the coffee, I don`t think that this coffee is better than the one I had yesterday at the other cafe, neither it is less good than the coffee I usually get.

This coffee is as it is, and that is all.

I just drink THIS coffee, I don`t need to drink yesterday`s coffee all over again. While I drink this coffee, I don`t think, I just drink. I am completely into the experience of drinking. I am experiencing what it feels like to drink a cup of coffee. Four of my senses are activated: sight, smell, touch, taste. This is the full experience of drinking a cuppa. Nothing else should be in the way . Nothing else should be standing between me and my experience of drinking my coffee, not even a thought. Not even the thought ‘this is a good coffee’, as as soon as this thought come I`m already removing myself from the experience itself. I`m giving it a name, a description, it becomes a concept. It becomes part of the mental world, the illusion of ideas, it isn`t a physical experience anymore.

I AM drinking a coffee, and THAT IS ALL THERE IS.

This is real. This is the ONLY reality: me and the coffee.

Nothing else exists, nothing else is real.

Any thoughts trying to infiltrate this experience are NOT REAL, and do not need to be there. Any thoughts trying to separate me from the experience of drinking my coffee are usurpers trying to catch my attention and removing me from Reality. These thoughts would appear real as they are talking about MY life, MY problems. So I would listen to what they say , maybe believe them and even thinking them true. Yet they can`t be. Yet they are not.

What is true is me, now, and my coffee.

I am one with my cuppa.

That is mindfulness.

K.Wilson

LEAP OF FAITH

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Leap of faith.

When we get to that time in our lives when we feel very unhappy with our circumstances, whether it be our job, relationships etc., we know change needs to happen.

Yet we are too scared to make a move.

We rather stay with the false comfort of what we know rather than taking a step toward an insecure unknown. So we hope, dream, wish for our lives to be different, while nothing changes. We start resenting others who seems to live their dreams.

Life doesn’t get better, it gets worse.

We are still unhappy. Maybe we start looking for ways to escape, alcohol, drugs,etc.

We feel we should make a move.

A steady voice inside ask us to let go and trust.

A little voice inside is telling us to take the first step, saying that we will be alright.

Yet that moving forward feel scarier than staying still.

Some will dare make the jump many will not.

Yet, can we really afford not to?

The MIND

THE PASS

 The MIND

For years and years, I identified myself with my mind. I thought I was the mind. What a surprise when I discovered I was not! It changed everything. It was a big relief for me because as a teenager, despite being one of the smartest kids at school, I believed myself crazy. There was incessant chatter in my head, most of it unnecessary thoughts of fear and worry, and I didn`t know if it was the same for other people. That chatter was driving me insane, I wanted to go and see a psychiatrist sometimes. But it seemed that everybody found me ‘normal’, and I was doing pretty well at what I was undertaking. So I started assuming that it was just the way to be, and that I would be an overactive thinker for the rest of my life, no respite. As the French philosopher Descartes was saying: ‘I think, therefore I am’. I had no idea how wrong we both were! What a relief it was for me the first time I experienced a few minutes with absolutely no thought. Complete silence. It was so peaceful! And yet I was still alive. I still existed. I could feel myself be in the absence of the mind. That`s when it hit me: I AM even when I don`t think, therefore I am not my mind! To rephrase Descartes I could say: ‘When I do not think, there I am’. Furthermore, I was feeling more myself in this moment than when I was thinking! That changed my life. That`s when I started meditating even more so as to find that space again, that peace, and so as to start controlling my mind. That is when I really started living.

 

THE MIND AS A COMPUTER

 

So what is the mind? The mind is like a computer, storing and processing data on its hard drive. Then analysing, comparing, and offering solutions to situations. For example, when I see a flame, straight away the mind may think: flame- fire- heat- careful- burnt hand at seven years of age- painful- could burn now- third degree burn- ambulance- hospital- staying away from flame! All this in a split second. Amazing! My experience and knowledge about fire will prevent me getting burnt each time I see a flame, and at the same time it offers me possible scenarios if I choose to get in contact with it. The mind sees what is in the present. Then, it compares it with what it knows happened in the past, or with what it learned in books, with people, school or society. Then it gives us all this data in thought forms, impressions or feelings. And finally it diverges on possible future scenarios according to all this information. That is why when we are listening to the mind, we find ourselves in the past or a probable future. It is really an amazing tool which is here to help us survive in a physical body in this third dimensional world. The problem is that we forget that it is just that, a tool, a computer. Over the years we put effort into making it strong, sharp and intelligent. Unfortunately, we overuse it and we forget to turn it off. Now the most common problem in the world is an overactive mind and people`s identification with it. It`s like having a TV inside our heads which is turned on all day long, and we can`t stop ourselves from watching it. After a while we even forget that we are actually separate from it. This is the biggest illusion, the identification with the mind. Most diseases of the modern world are related to this confusion: depression, compulsive disorders, anxiety, stress, etc. And taking medication or going to see a psychiatrist or psychologist won`t do any good, because you cannot fix the mind. The mind IS THE PROBLEM. The only medication that will heal these issues is Meditation, because it is the only way to get rid of THE problem.

 

UNDERSTAND YOUR MIND

The first step to understand the mind is to watch it. Pay attention to it. Notice how it works. Follow the strand of your thoughts. Try to remember what triggered your thought patterns. Why are you thinking what you are thinking now? What was your first thought, your first sentence, your first word, etc? Look at your thoughts. Watch them from a distance. Be the observer. Don`t try to understand them, just be aware of them. Look and listen to them as if you were watching a movie, the fictional movie of your imagination. Try to notice the patterns. Try to notice the repetitions. Try to notice how that mind of yours is functioning.

 

THE MIND AND ASSOCIATIONS

The mind works with associations. You see something that makes you think about another thing which reminds you of something else which…it is a jumping monkey. For example, you see a blue flower. You may think: this is a blue flower- it`s beautiful – I love blue- it looks like the one my mum used to have in her garden- it`s been a long time since I called her- wonder if she found the key she was looking for- that reminds me that I need to pick up my car keys at Kate`s later- then I will need to get something for dinner- a roast would be great- but it takes too long to cook- let`s have mashed potatoes instead- yes that`s good, I’ll have more time to watch my TV show…You are still looking at the flower, but you are gone with the mind. The flower is real, it is what IS NOW, but the mind is not. You left reality to follow an illusion. And this happens all the time, indeed it never stops.

 

THE MIND AND LABELING

The mind works at labelling. The mind loves to notice and label things which you are seeing with your physical eyes: a blue/ beautiful/ small/ big/ funny/ etc flower, a car, a tree, a bus, oh it`s raining, etc. It likes putting adjective to the material world it sees depending on your experience, subjectivity or perception. It also comments on what/ how your body is feeling in the moment: it`s hot/ cold/ humid/ etc. It transfers physical data to your conscious self so you can act accordingly, like putting a sweater on if you`re cold. It will always describe and label what your senses perceive of the outside world. It is a computer, it processes information.

 

THE MIND AND READING

The mind loves reading things. Whatever your eyes get in contact with, your mind will try to read if you don`t consciously stop it. For example the billboards in the streets, even if you take the same road every day, if you look at the board you will have the slogan being said inside your head straight away (great for advertising!). That is also why every morning, while you are eating your cereals, you are reading what`s in the pack if it is right in front you, even if you have been eating the same cereals for years and they haven`t changed the ingredients. The mind will always be looking for something to read, while you`re eating, while you`re walking, while you`re on public transport, etc. It will always try to remove you from the experience you are having right now. It will prevent you from focusing on your present reality, and reading is one of its escape tricks.

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THE MIND AND TIME

The mind loves to go over the past and sometimes change it. It loves to remember the past, good times or not, like watching a movie over and over again. Then it loves to think about what would have happened if someone might have done this instead of that, if someone might have said that instead of this, or what someone should have done or not done, should have said or not said…The mind also loves to plan the future. It is always concerned about what we should do, don`t do, what could go wrong and why. It loves its ‘what to do’ list: what we ‘have to’ do tomorrow or next week, which day, what time, etc. It likes organizing, planning, making lists and when something is finally done from the list, something else suddenly appears…always busy!

It is a computer, gathering, analysing data and offering solutions. It never stops. It is restless. We made it that way. It will only exist in time, in the past or in the future, and it will always try to escape the present, because in the NOW the mind is not.

 This is an excerpt from 7 Illusions

Look up!

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Look up.

When you are walking, look up.

If you walk with your eyes on the ground , you’re most certainly in your mind, thinking of the past or the future, but you’re not present.

Look up.

Look at what’s around you.

Look at the sky, the trees, the birds etc.

Look at what IS happening right here, right now.

Be present.

Only what is happening right now is real, the movie in your mind IS NOT happening.

Wake up!

Look up!

Happiness

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Happiness

Waking up in the morning, happy to be alive

Realizing we are still here,

That we have been granted yet another day

Another day to feel

Another day to laugh

Another day to smile

Another day to love

Another day to be

Another day to enjoy and share

Let`s be present to this day

There is only one like this one

Today is HERE

And we ARE NOW

Happiness