What if with a change of thought we could change our emotions.
What if right now, we consciously decided to drop our worry and choose another thought to replace it with.
Just here on a deep out breath we let go of our pain, and just then on a deep in breath we pick a thought that will make us smile.And let’s do this for a few minutes, in and out.
Letting go of thinking that we don’t like, choosing our own thoughts instead.
In and out.
There we are.
We are already feeling better.
And there, right here, between the two breaths, between the two thoughts: nothingness.
The pure beauty of silence.
Article by guest blogger Alexis Hall
Single parents are among the busiest people on the planet. Between working, taking care of children, cooking meals, packing lunches, helping with homework, transporting kids, and taking care of the house, laundry, and dishes, single parents don’t seem to have any time left for themselves. It’s no wonder that many single parents think that they don’t have the time, energy, or money it takes to get and stay in shape. The truth is, single parents can get fit, and our guide will help.
1. Create a Home Gym
Gym memberships are expensive in and of themselves, and single parents often have to hire a babysitter if they want to work out at a gym or fitness center. The costs of working out in a gym add up too quickly for most single parents. That’s why one of the best ways you can get and stay in shape is to build your own gym at home.
Single parents who have a home gym don’t have to worry about taking extra time to drive to and from a gym to work out or paying fees to the facility or a babysitter. They also can work out early inthe morning or late at night.
The key to building your home gym is to include the right pieces of equipment. You don’t need to buy the most expensive equipment, but you should purchase pieces that will help you maximize the short time you have to work on yourself.
For example, dumbbells and kettlebells are among the most versatile pieces of equipment you can include in your home gym. You can store them virtually anywhere and start small and gradually increase the weight. You also can use dumbbells to work several parts of your body, including your shoulders, arms, abs, and legs.
2. Involve Your Kids in Getting Fit
Spending time with your kids is precious to you, and you can instill healthy habits in them if you get fit together. In fact, studies find that obese children and teens are at a higher risk for heart disease and other health conditions earlier today than ever before because they have as much plaque in their arteries as middle-aged adults.
To get your kids excited about getting fit together, make it more of a game than a chore. You could ask them to create fun ways to stretch and warm up, create a family-friendly contest for the number of push-ups or sit-ups completed in a week, or have them take turns timing the number of squats everyone can do in a minute.
3. Get Outside
Sometimes, getting fit can be as easy as getting out of the house. Families get stuck in ruts when they sit around and watch television every night or play video games on weekends. As a single parent, you can help your kids become more active by getting them outside with you more often.
There are several fun ways you and your kids can be active as a family, including playing basketball in the driveway, football in the yard, or baseball at the park. You also can plan a family bike ride on the weekend or a day of swimming when the weather gets warm. Other fun, physical games to play as a family include kickball and dodgeball.
Going on family hikes is an ideal way to get fit without spending a ton of money. Many cities throughout the U.S. have nature trails that are free to the public, and state parks often offer free hiking trails that are family-friendly. To make your family hike even more fun, make sure you are prepared ahead of time.
Pack plenty of water and healthy snacks that will help everyone refuel, including granola bars, trail mix, nuts, and dried fruits. It’s also a good idea to ensure everyone has good walking shoes or sturdy sneakers and cushioned socks while you hike. And, pack bandages in case someone gets a blister or skins a knee while hiking.
Even single parents can have enough time, energy, and money to get and stay fit if you build you create a home gym, involve your kids in getting fit, and spend more time being active outdoors.
We can’t change the world unless we change ourselves.
We need to start giving more to receive more.
Find peace within before expecting it outside.
Learning to love ourselves so we can love others.
Be ready to question our system of beliefs to create a new society system.
We can be all, create all, become anything.
What are we doing?
What are we choosing?
Who are we choosing to be?
Just a reminder:
You are enough.
You are beautiful.
You are perfect just as you are.
You are as good as everyone else.
You are loved.
You are provided.
You will always have enough.
You are safe.
You can relax now as whatever your problem is, it’s going to be alright.
You can breathe and smile, you are alive, and right now in this present moment ALL IS WELL.
There is no short cut to happiness and there is no “future” miracle possession that will bring it to us.
No matter how much we fill our life with stuff, nothing will ever fill up a bottomless emptiness.
If we are not happy now the “future things” ( house, dream job, Prada shoes, Prince Charming) will not bring it to us.
We need to make ourselves happy right now.
We need first to let go of what makes us unhappy in our life: the job we hate, the not so charming anymore partner , and then choose what is good for us. What kind of relationship do we want, how do we want to spend the rest of our life day after day, which ‘work’ wouldn’t feel like one.
But then we also need to let go of our unhealthy and unhappy thoughts patterns. Nothing from the outside will ever change them, it will give a quick relief but then it’s back to our old ways of thinking.
We need to change our thoughts, we need to reprogram our mind.
This is an internal work we need to do, not the easiest one but the most rewarding.
And to be honest long lasting happiness is actually easier to find than Prince Charming!