Our life is our teacher

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Who are we to decide what is right or wrong?
How do we know if a person wrongdoing maybe another one life’s lesson?
My worst experiences have been my best experiences. Why? Because my difficulties and hardships have given me more strength, wisdom and empowerment than my happiest times.
I’m forever grateful for the pain, hurts and difficult times that I have encountered in my life. Not that I want more. But I acknowledge and understand the perfect place they had in my growth and journey as a small human being.
K. Wilson

Who are we choosing to be?

IMG_4890We can’t change the world unless we change ourselves.
We need to start giving more to receive more.
Find peace within before expecting it outside.
Learning to love ourselves so we can love others.
Be ready to question our system of beliefs to create a new society system.
We can be all, create all, become anything.
What are we doing?
What are we choosing?
Who are we choosing to be?
K. Wilson

Still waiting for Prince Charming?

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There is no short cut to happiness and there is no “future” miracle possession that will bring it to us.
No matter how much we fill our life with stuff, nothing will ever fill up a bottomless emptiness.
If we are not happy now the “future things” ( house, dream job, Prada shoes, Prince Charming) will not bring it to us.
We need to make ourselves happy right now.
We need first to let go of what makes us unhappy in our life: the job we hate, the not so charming anymore partner , and then choose what is good for us. What kind of relationship do we want, how do we want to spend the rest of our life day after day, which ‘work’ wouldn’t feel like one.
But then we also need to let go of our unhealthy and unhappy thoughts patterns. Nothing from the outside will ever change them, it will give a quick relief but then it’s back to our old ways of thinking.
We need to change our thoughts, we need to reprogram our mind.
This is an internal work we need to do, not the easiest one but the most rewarding.
And to be honest long lasting happiness is actually easier to find than Prince Charming!
K. Wilson

We are not the mind

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The mind is talking always, and we are listening to it.
But we don’t have to.
The mind is talking always and we are identifying with it.
But we don’t have to.
When we realize that we are separate from the mind, then we start to awaken.
If not we spend all our lives in an illusion.
The body is.
We are.
But we are not the body.
The mind is.
We are.
But we are not the mind.

K. Wilson

4 Ways To Let Go Of Stress And Become Present

Originally Posted on LaMav Blog on February 23, 2016

 

Get Rid Of Stress & Find Inner Peace With Karen Wilson


Meditation teacher at  Awaken Meditation Retreats and author of 3 books, Karen Wilson is definitely an inspiring figure you can learn a lot from.

In her mid 20`s, Karen has practiced long periods of meditation which completely changed her health, happiness and the quality of her life. Since then, she has been passionate about spreading the benefits of meditation to the world, to help people find their true self and their true power.

Today, the woman behind ‘7 Illusions: Discover Who You Really Are’ , ‘Meditation Workout: 30 Days – 30 Meditations’, and ‘Awaken: Mindfulness Musings for the Soul’ is here to share with our readers her basic, bu essential, tips on achieving inner piece and balance, without losing contact with your true self. Let’s see what she has for us…

Stress has become a common part of our lives. It is just there and somehow we got used to living with it. There is always something to be concerned about, whether it be our health, our job, our relationships or our finances. It sometimes seems like as soon as a ‘problem’ is resolved it is soon to be replaced by another one. Then we have something else to be worried about that need to be fixed. And most of the time we can’t totally relax until “our main big problem” is solved. But it never seems to end and instead we start accumulating too much stress that will also create more health, family or financial problems. So how can we find some kind of peace in the middle of our mayhem?

It often helps to understand that most of our fears and worries are in our minds. They are often concerning a ‘future’ situation we are trying to avoid. We want to feel secure, in control of our lives and have everything all perfect so we can finally enjoy it. Unfortunately that is not how life works. We will never have it under our control, and our future will never be secure no matter what our minds are trying to make us believe: “once I get that job, all will be well”, “once I buy a house, I will be safe”, “once I get that raise, I will be secure”. Understanding that we can’t really create security helps us let go of the pressure of trying to fix everything to get it perfect and secure. There is nothing to be fixed. So what can we do instead?

First, It is good to know that stressing over the future or any situation won’t help. For example stressing about money won’t make us richer. The best we can do is to first assess if there is anything in our power that will improve that situation, and if there is then we can act on it. But if there isn’t it, then we just have to let it go, stop worrying about it and trust that the situation will take care of itself. So how do we just let go?

The problem when we worry too much about our lives and our future is that we tend to miss out on our present. We tend to be so caught up in our minds that we forget to just live and enjoy the precious moments in our days. In order to let go of our stress we need to come back to the present moment. How can we become more present? Here’s a few tips:

1. Breath

Every time we notice ourselves caught into the maze of our thoughts we need to remember to take a deep breath. That deep breath will bring us back here, now, in the present where we stand, and where we are safe. In that moment our future worries are not ‘there’, they are not ‘real’. But WE are here, now, and we are alright.

2. Awareness

We can become more present by paying attention to what’s around us NOW. Right now: what am I seeing? What am I hearing? What I am feeling? What am I tasting? Reconnecting with our five senses shifts our attention from our illusionary thoughts back to our experience of the moment. Then we can really make the most of it and enjoy it fully.

 

3. Nature

Taking some time in nature is important for each of us. It is soothing and grounding. It helps reconnect to a slower pace of living which we used to have before fast paced cities and technology. It is important to make some time to slow down and enjoy a forest or beach walk, or just sit in a park if we are in a city. We always feel better after having spent half an hour in nature.

4. Meditation

Taking up meditation is not the easiest thing to do. Our busy minds don’t like sitting down for half an hour and like giving us all kind of excuses to avoid it. Yet learning to meditate, and practicing regularly will help us to become in control of our mind instead of being controlled by it. Moreover,meditation can help us access these moments of deep peace which happen when all thoughts stop.Meditation may seems like hard work but on the long term it is one of the best way to de-stress and enjoy a more peaceful life.

In the end no matter what our favourite way of de-stressing is, it is necessary to incorporate it in our daily life. Our mental wellbeing is very important and to be honest we are not going to miss out on anything if we take half an hour time out daily in nature or in meditation. Our ‘problems’ may still be there when we come back but our thoughts about them would be gone. And that’s what peace is all about!